14 November 2009

It's All Very Personal

While lying in bed the other morning, I was thinking about one particular scene in the movie Beetle Juice. Adam and Barbara (newly deceased) have gone for help, because they're rather frustrated with their afterlife. They end up in a waiting room much like you would find in any "live" government office, but filled with quite the cast of characters: a woman who had been sawed in half, an explorer with a shrunken head, etc. The following exchange with the receptionist takes place:
[in the waiting room of the afterlife]
Barbara: Adam, is this what happens when you die?
Receptionist: This is what happens when *you* die.
[points at a gaunt man smoking]
Receptionist: That is what happens when *he* dies.
[points at a woman cut in half on the sofa reading]
Receptionist: And that is what happens when *they* die. It's all very personal.
I mention this only because it is my mother's time to die. Her nine-month battle with brain cancer is at an end. It's been a difficult few days here with family as we keep a round-the-clock vigil and move into other phases.

Grieving, too, is all very personal. As such, I'm not sure what this space will look like in the next week or so as we deal with funeral arrangements and other issues. I have a few half-finished posts in the queue that I will try to shine up and set to auto-post. Please be patient with comment moderation, as my access to the internet may be intermittent and I have a variety of traveling to do.

Life moves on, sometimes in fits and starts and pauses. So will this blog.

11 comments:

Hugh O'Donnell said...

I'm sorry for your troubles, SG.

I'll say a prayer for your Mom and you and your family.

On the mortal plane, keep in mind many of us out here care greatly for you.

Louise Maine said...

I am so sorry to hear about your mother. It is very personal. This August, my grandma (she was 97 and more like a mother than my real one) was on hospice and died a few weeks later. The process of letting go and being with her a lot before she died was powerful and one I will not forget. Other family members could not spend that time and that is their personal decision. That time let me say goodbye and hear the wonderful stories of others she had touched. Give yourself time. The blog and your readers will wait.

Cheryl van Tilburg said...

How sad. Sending you warm and loving thoughts during these tough times you and your family are going through. Peace.

Roger Sweeny said...

I read that and got a little misty-eyed thinking of you. I'm sorry.

Michaele said...

Nurturning thoughts. Peace to your mother, your family and you.

OKP said...

I'm sorry for your loss and for your grief. Be well.

Jennifer said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending good thoughts your way.

The Science Goddess said...

Thank you all for your kind words and peaceful thoughts.

My mother passed away this afternoon about 4:30, just as her husband walked through the door to her room. She had waited to take her last breath until he could be with her. This day was full of great struggles for her and it is a relief to know that she doesn't have to fight anymore.

Your messages today were a great comfort. I appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts and provide me with some support during a time of need.

Meanwhile, I keep dancing said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know that an anticipated death is no easier than an expected one, even knowing that someone is free of pain. Take care of yourself.

Dr Pezz said...

My thoughts are with you during this tragic time. All my best.

BluesSister2 said...

I lost my mom in August. My condolences to you . . .